Are you looking forward to Christmas being over?

“Everyone” looks forward to coming home for Christmas.

“Everyone” plans to lounge on the couch, being served warm mulled wine and seven kinds of Christmas cookies.

“Everyone” wishes this Christmas holiday would last forever.

But you? You’re mostly looking forward to Christmas being over.

Maybe you have many chores and responsibilities waiting for you at home.

Maybe you don’t have a good relationship with your family — but where else can you go?

Maybe your family struggles with substance abuse issues.

Maybe this year will bring a completely new kind of Christmas — without your mother or father, with new step-siblings, or without siblings at all.

Maybe you find it hard that your parents still treat you like a child when all you want is to be seen as an adult.

1. Manage Expectations

• Be realistic: Not every Christmas is going to look like a picture-perfect holiday movie. Accepting that it might not be perfect can reduce disappointment.
• Set boundaries: Decide in advance how much time you’ll spend with family or in challenging situations.

2. Focus on What You Can Control

• Create your own traditions: Incorporate activities you enjoy—whether that’s baking your favourite treats, taking a walk, or watching a comforting movie.
• Plan escape moments: Schedule short breaks for yourself to recharge, like reading, journaling, or stepping outside for fresh air.

3. Build a Support System

• Reach out to friends: Stay connected with people who understand and support you. A quick text or call can provide comfort.
• Have an ally: If there's someone in your family you trust, share your feelings with them beforehand for support during gatherings.
• Celebrate with your chosen family: If going home is tough, consider spending part of your holiday with friends or others who bring positivity into your life.

Remember: It’s okay to prioritize your well-being. You don’t have to make everyone else happy at the expense of your own mental health.

Student helpline

A free and anonymous low-threshold service for all students who need someone to talk to. No matter what's on your mind, you can talk to the Student helpline. They are familiar with student life and maintain confidentiality.

Phone and chat hours:
Open every day from 6 PM to 2 AM (including weekends and holidays).
Phone: 116 123 (press 3)

Blå Kors Kompasset (Blue Cross Compass)

Here, you’ll meet therapists who can talk to you about your feelings, thoughts, and experiences of growing up in a home affected by substance abuse.

The service is free, and you can contact them directly. If you live far away, there’s also an online option.

Phone: 22 03 27 40

Out-of-hours medical service

All municipalities in Norway offer an out-of-hours medical service for immediate medical assistance 24 hours a day.

Call the 6-digit number 116 117 for free to contact your local out-of-hours medical centre. In an emergency, call 113.